Restoring Your Husband's Shining Armor



Today, I am so blessed and honored to have my dear friend,
I have known Alicia for about 11 years.
She is a Real Life friend and a Blogging Friend.
We traveled to and from The Relevant Conference together.
Alicia's blog was the first one to inspire me to blog, and here I am.
She is witty, wise and challenges us as women 
to become better wives, moms, friends, followers and servants of our Lord.
If you need a place to go, that when you leave it, your heart has been touched,
her blog is the place to go.
Go say hi and tell her Leslie sent you.

Take it away, Alicia:


Restoring Your Husband's Shining Armor

Even though they are centuries old, knights are a part of our culture.  Volumes of books are written about them.  Little boys imagine being one and little girls dream of being rescued by one.  New brides often speak of finally finding their knight in shining armor.

What happens when that armor gets rusted or damaged?

Every marriage experiences its share of troubles.  For women, this can be especially difficult.  It’s hard to accept that your knight in shining armor is just a man.  It doesn’t fit into the accepted image of knighthood.

Accept his Faults

No one is perfect.  But for some reason we expect husbands to be.  So when he burps at inappropriate times or leaves his clothes on the floor, we get upset.  We can’t accept that he might be any less than our idealized version of him.

Living with a person 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, we see that entire person, the good and the bad.  As wives, we need to love our husband for who God created him to be.   Marriage is about learning to accept your entire spouse, not just the shining armor.




Forgive and Forget

People hurt people.  It happens anytime two people are in a relationship.  Our knights aren’t immune to this.  They say things that hurt.  They forget anniversaries and birthdays.  They make commitments without checking schedules.

We have to be willing to forgive, even if they don’t ask for forgiveness.  Forgiveness isn’t about making them feel better.  But it does help us feel better.  Then we have to be willing to forget and move forward.  It’s the only way to help restore that shining armor.

Remember the Commitment

Underneath that shining armor, husbands are really just men who have the same temptations and struggles as other people.  People make bad business decisions. People become addicted to drugs, alcohol and/or pornography.  People have affairs. Unfortunately these things happen.

It’s hard to overlook those deep hurts.  It’s hard to love in the midst of the pain.  It’s hard to forgive.  But we can’t give up on our knights. 

Vows are made before families and God.  Remember that marriage is about that commitment and not the current circumstances.  It’s not easy.  But marriage isn’t easy.  It takes hard work and determination.  It involves looking past the damaged armor and seeing the man inside.




Believe in Restoration

Don’t give up on your marriage.  It is possible to revive those old feelings of love and trust.  But we have to be willing to try.  We have to be willing to put aside our hurt feelings and respond with kindness and compassion instead of irritation and annoyance. 

We also need to believe in our husbands despite the dents in his armor.  Renewed commitment can buff out the dents.   Forgiveness can help it shine again.  And love can help us accept the man inside the armor.



"Thank you, Leslie, for letting me be a guest poster at your blog today.  
I pray that it will be an encouragement to you and your readers."
Alicia, the Snowflake


Her blog again? Click here.








Top image credit: Maggie Loves Hopey

13 comments:

  1. What a wonderful guest post Leslie! I'm headed over to her blog right now to check out some more! :-)
    Blessings,
    Vanessa

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  2. Wow, it's so amazing to be going through something, and God leads you to the exact words you need to read. That just happened to me reading this. Thank you for you doing this guest post, Leslie. It has hit home, and I'm taking heed.
    God bless you,
    Leslye

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  3. What a wonderful guest post!!! I am very guilty of jumping all over my husband for a loud burp or for leaving his clothes all over the place. Thank you for the timely reminder that nobody's perfect. :)

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  4. Awwww...thank you Leslie for your kind words. You're always such a blessing to me. Thank you for allowing me this time to bless others. (((Hugs))) to you my friend!

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  5. God does work in mysterious ways. I so very much needed to read this today, needed to be encouraged not to give up, not to give in, and to stay the course. Forgiveness is truly the way to healing.

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  6. WOW! Thank you for this great post! I also needed to read this today.

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  7. Beautiful post full of wonderful advice. Forgiveness is key, I think.

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  8. Oh that was neat Leslie, what a nice tribute to all the husbands and mates out there. Heading on over to say hi now.

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  9. Great post- thanks for sharing that Leslie! Hope all is well with you and yours! :)

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  10. Hey lady, where'd you go on fb? I got up this morning eagerly to check your advice on stubborness and you were gone. Sending you an email. Love.

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  11. Beautiful post...one we would all do well to remember daily! I popped over from Amanda's Weekend Blog Reading linky party!

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  12. I so needed to read this today. Thank you for the reminders.

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