Letting Go :: Lessons for a College Mom





So, we took our daughter, Miss S, to the University last night.
It's her Sophomore year.
I miss her like I did last year when she went away for the first time.

Sure, the college is just across town, 1/2 an hour away,
but her room is empty.
Again.



She drives me crazy sometimes when she's home.
She sleeps in. Her room looks like a war zone.
She makes her own schedule that doesn't jive with mine.

She makes me laugh and learn with her wisdom and insight.
She sweetly encourages her sister. She puts her dishes in the dishwasher.
She embraces a hope for the future that inspires the socks off of me.




My sister sent me the video below--I had never seen it before.
But, oh! How beautiful it is!

I have had 18+ years to raise and train my daughter, yet it went by quickly.
I am proud of the woman that she has become, and I want her to fly!
I am letting go, so she can.





She'll take the painting in the hallway
The one she did in Jr. High
And that old lamp up in the attic,
She'll need some light to study by.


She's had 18 years to get ready for this day.
She should be past the tears, she cries some anyway.


Oh, oh, letting go.
There's nothing in the way now,
Oh letting go, there's room enough to fly.
And even though, she's spent her whole life waiting,
It's never easy letting go.


Mother sits down at the table.
So many things she'd like to do.
Spend more time out in the garden,
Now she can get those books read, too.


She's had 18 years to get ready for this day.
She should be past the tears, she cries some anyway.


Oh, oh, letting go.
There's nothing in the way now,
Oh letting go, there's room enough to fly.
And even though, she's spent her whole life waiting,
It's never easy letting go.


Oh, oh, letting go.
There's nothing in the way now,
Oh letting go, there's room enough to fly.
And even though, she's spent her whole life waiting,
It's never easy letting go.

~Suzy Bogguss




32 comments:

  1. Oh letting go is just so hard. It seems like they are just way too young and there is so much more you want to tell and show them and to protect them. However, they are truly wise beyond their years and are such capable people. Still, letting go is sooooooo hard. God Bless. Hugs, Marty

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  2. I remember the college days and both my kids leaving. They were just a year apart in school. It will go by fast too and then they are out on their own.

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  3. Hardest part of raising my kids...letting go! They grow up way to fast, don't they? Those lyrics, profound. Never easy letting go!

    Take care!

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  4. I hate the letting go part. I miss my two that are far from home. I hope we can go for a visit over Labor Day. I plan to stock up their cupboards with supplies. I always worry they aren't eating!

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  5. It was hardest with my first child, a daughter. It almost felt like she had died when I would walk by her empty room. But I was also so excited for her. With each child it got easier. Now we are very used to having the house to ourselves (hubby and I and THE CAT). Now it does not seem normal if the kids come home for a bit! My last son moved out this week.....taking much of his stuff---it feels nice ;-). Each of my kids have finished college and are out on their own and that is exciting!

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  6. Beautiful post! When I was in high school, almost ready to graduate, we had an assignment to present something meaningful about transitioning to college. I chose this song, and played it for the class. I still get teary-eyed thinking about it and that was 16 years ago! :)

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  7. It is such a bittersweet time, Leslie! It does go by so fast ~ this time we are entrusted with these souls to mold. When college rolls around {or even sooner - in high school when they need to make sound decisions} you hope that you've laid a strong foundation and that they will build off of that. You can only take a deep breath and hope!

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  8. Our third and baby girl is a senior this year and she has four more years to go to finish up and be a vet. I thought my heart would break when each one left at 18 but this baby girl was the hardest because she was the last. Another chapter in my life ending and a new one beginning. Always tough on me!

    I thought I was through crying but the video and your post brought a fresh batch of tears. It is always good to know I am not alone in my feelings. Thank you for sharing.


    Terri

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  9. Great post. My niece leaves tomorrow for college. Going to share this with my sister in law!
    Wendy

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  10. Ohhhhhh, Leslie. That post was a tear-jerker. Really great job! Oh yes,I remember the letting go and the flood of tears that followed. I thought my heart would break in two but it didn't. Somehow I survived and so did my grown-up "kids." Letting go is one of the most difficult aspects of parenting and I'll never get completely used to it! I can feel your sadness as well as your hope and dreams for your daughter. Susan

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  11. Well, I just cried all the way through that one.

    I had never heard it. Funny that the date listed was 1992, the year my girl was born. 18 years, and I had never heard it once. I guess it was being saved for such a time as this.

    Sending hugs from one college mom to another.

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  12. Wonderful post! Oh it makes me cry to think of my girls leaving us someday...and they are "only" 8 and 11...but that time seems so close now. Thank you for sharing.

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  13. Sniff. Not quite there yet with my offspring, since my oldest is 11, but I know it will come...probably sooner than I can imagine.

    Saw your link on Relatively Unique and hopped over. I'm now following and enjoying reading your various posts. Thanks for the inspiration!

    Blessings,
    Alison

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  14. I cried almost everyday of my daughter's senior year! I thought her leaving was going to be the end of me! Thank goodness she stayed in town for college! I can't imagine our home without her! I really don't know how ya'll do it! I tease my youngest that when he leaves for school I am going with him! I JUST MIGHT;)!

    What a sweet post!

    Enjoy!
    Cathy

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  15. I share your feelings. I also posted on sending one to college this week. It is truly bittersweet. On Sunday I will put my precious daughter on a plane to China where she will be until Christmas. It will be an adjustment since she also is usually in school across town.Silly me. I thought motherhood at this point in my children's lives would be easy!

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  16. I remember that song back when I was in high school. Beautiful! Thanx for sharing and though I know mine is only in first grade I feel some of your "pain". He is gone over 7 hours a day now which is the longest we have ever been apart. I teared up this morning when he hopped out o the car to go into school.

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  17. My oldest child is not quite ten and I already dread the day she leaves home. I love how your relationship with your girls comes through on this blog. Sounds like they are great kids!

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  18. Oh, Leslie! It is so hard to let go; I hear you! My baby went to kindergarten and that was hard. I can't imagine how it will be when they actually leave the house.

    What a blessing to have a daughter that inspires you. She sounds like a wonderful girl, and you should be so proud of her! Your work isn't done yet- she'll still need her mama plenty!

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  19. Leslie,

    Sending you a hug today as you and your daughter enter another stage of your relationship. Yes, it's bittersweet, but also cause for celebration! You have done HIS work and raised her up the right way, teaching her all that matters most.

    Your Friend,
    Deborah

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  20. My oldest son is turning 18 next month- I'll tell you- this whole year has been so hard building up to him graduating and becoming an adult. He isn't going away to college- he just moved out into our little guest cottage! :) but it's not the same. I did a post about him graduating not too long ago and was remembering that little baby boy... it's so bittersweet. You are so proud of them but want them to stay little a bit longer...
    Hugs to you

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  21. My daughter is 13...I am not ready for this yet as I am a mess just watching this!

    I am thinking of you though and sending my best wishes to you all.

    Blessings,
    Natasha.

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  22. My twin daughters graduated in 1997 - long ago - and I heard that song their junior year of high school. I hurried and bought the CD and listened to it every now and then through out that time. I cried every time! It was the most difficult thing I had ever done - letting go - but the rewards are great. I've got 4 beautiful grandchildren and 2 great friends in my daughters. God does have a perfect plan after all:-)

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  23. Sweet post. It is hard for me to remember now how hard it was then. Life goes on...and then you get grandchildren.

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  24. Sweet post, Leslie. It is amazing how fast our little ones grow up.

    I passed an award on to you. Stop by if you have time and pick it up.

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  25. What a touching post! This really tugs at my heartstrings as my Diva is starting her Junior year this year. She has summered over the past two summers, so having her gone has been easier in transition, but when she comes home for a visit, I want to hold her and keep her home with me.

    Hard to watch them grow up, exciting to see them as they begin their life journey.

    Hugs!

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  26. Ok, this could be my post. boo hoo! Letting go is soooo hard!! Thanks for sharing.

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  27. this is life and this is what happens in life, things are never same and i guess they change for better or we would not be the same people!! be happy

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  28. It is hard when they leave home. especially when the turn into such amazing young-adults that we want to get to know better. *sigh* we give them wings . . .
    beautiful photos btw
    ♥ maureen

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